Advice for the Guys from the Ladies
Friend Zone
I recently experienced the best weekend of my life. The last four days have been a blur with lectures, events, dinners and other various intellectually and socially stimulating activities. In the midst of it all, a good friend made the decision to “spill the beans” that he is attracted to me over text. I responded that I appreciate his continued encouragement and support.
But I’m Such a Nice Guy!
I remember reading an article in Esquire a while back. The author began saying that 2007 is the year of the “nice guy”. This statement hit close to home for me. Over the years, the art of seduction has evolved into a complicated, subversive strategy. The vast majority of women will attest that we are done playing games, presenting the perfect opportunity for the nice guy to enter the scene.
Give us a compliment already!
The old adage is not true. Flattery will get you everywhere. Well, okay, maybe not everywhere or everything, but if I like you, it will get you far enough with me.
You Can’t Bullshit a Bullshitter
All right, guys, listen up. I’m reaching out to you from the standpoint of a 27-year old woman; a professional, independent, self-sufficient serial dater. I’ve had long relationships, short relationships, and one night stands; I’ve speed dated, online dated, been set up, and connected with beer goggle-infused dudes at bars at 2am. Simply put: I’ve experienced the gamut of dating to the point where I feel my words pull some weight. Most importantly? I’m L.A. born and raised. So don’t give me that crap that “dating in L.A. is so tough.” I hear the same complaints from my friends who live in New York. Dating is a wicked game that spans coast to coast.
Where we like to go on first dates...
About a year ago, one of my close guy friends (Artist with a hint of Fratastic) came to visit me in L.A. and told me how much he hates dating. He went on to tell me how he wanted to impress a girl, so he took her to a fancy dinner, that he couldn’t afford, and they ate beautiful a la carte meals by candlelight. Fancy dinners and candlelight sound like a sophisticated and romantic way to woo a girl, right? Wrong.
Why movies are the worst dates ever…
When you’re 15 and you like a girl, the easiest date to go on is to the movies. It’s fairly cheap, your parents can drop you off without knowing you’re meeting a girl, and your nervous hormones allow you to sit next to a cute blonde in the dark without actually having to talk to her.